One of the most popular stories in the news right now has to do with professional football players and disciplining their children.
It’s been a while since we have had to discipline anyone besides maybe ourselves from eating that second piece of cake. But, since we are full of wisdom these days, we want everyone to know that we were possibly spanked, or at least, chased around by our mother waving a wooden spoon or belt, and turned out okay.
To many of us, there is a difference between what we hear may have happened to the children of these football players and a quick tap on a fully clothed behind. Whether or not any of this is good parenting is a personal and societal discussion. There is also the thought that showing any kind of violence as part of discipline is counter-productive and bad parenting.
I saw a discussion on Facebook yesterday where my local TV station asked if spanking is okay.
Just about everyone responding responded “yes” while quite a few mid-life people stated that they were spanked and turned out okay?
We turned out okay…right?
Just how do you define “okay” anyway?
Sometimes we say “I turned out okay” because it is the first thing that comes to mind and since it has worked in the past, it sounds like it would work in this instance.
The good news is that there have been changes in parenting since we were at that spankable age.
Parents have found options to take before they reach for that wooden spoon or belt.
Time-outs, extra chores, and loss of allowance money can work well when it comes to disciplining.
Society has changed as well.
If you ‘disciplined’ your child with an electric cord and left scars as a result, chances are that someone would see this and report you to the authorities for child abuse.
Will children who are disciplined according to today’s standards turn out okay?
Well, we did, right?